How to Be…… FHE

Well, last night was our last Family Home Evening before school started this year.  The kids all left for the first day of school today!  I couldn’t let them go without one more important lesson.  Every lesson is important, but this one needed to be taught or reviewed before school started!

I love President Hinkley!  He was such an inspiring man.


I loved his talk on the six or nine ways that we should “be.”  I have a sign in my home with the 9 “Bs” posted on it.  We read through each one of them, and discussed with our children how we can be that way!  Fill your discussions with stories you’ve heard or examples you know of.  Your discussions will most likely be different than ours!

Be Grateful — It’s too easy for all of us to get caught up in what we don’t have.  Learn to be so grateful for what we do have.  Live in gratitude each day.

Be smart — Use your head.  Take advantage of learning opportunities.  Also, If your friends start doing things that you don’t want to be a part of “Be smart” and don’t go down that same road.  Remember who you are and who you are trying to become like.

Be Clean — Obviously this is speaking of being morally clean!  We also expanded a little and talked about being neat and comely, for our little boys.  We further discussed the importance of dressing modestly and how that helps keep other peoples’ thoughts clean and pure.  We reminded them that if they dress in a way that would cause someone of the opposite gender to think unclean thoughts, that they would be held accountable for that.   We asked the question:  “What type of person would be attracted to me if I dress a certain way?”  I like what John Bytheway said, “What we wear doesn’t just send a message, it IS a message, and that message either qualifies for the Spirit or it doesn’t.  We have to make sure the clothes on our bodies match the testimony in our spirit!”

Insert side note thought — I think I am going to go on a “modesty crusade.”

Be True — Remember that we took our upon our Savior’s name when we were baptized.  We are a disciple and we should not ever be ashamed of that.  Be true to who we are.

Be Humble — Humble means “teachable.”

Be Prayerful — We can always have a prayer in our hearts.  We need help at a moment’s notice of what to do with friends, or help on a test, offer a prayer in your heart.

Be Positive — We all like to gravitate to positive people.  We talked about the glass being half full/half empty.  Look for the good in all things!

Be Involved — Take advantages of all opportunities.  Be an example at all times.  Great opportunities exist for them to be involved and try to do their part to make the world a little bit better!  There are so many ways they can be either an example for good or bad… hopefully it will be for good!

Be Still — Sometimes we have to tune out the world…. the music, the TV, the computer, the Ipod….. so that we can listen to, and hear the quiet, gentle promptings of the STILL small voice!  We have to make room for it.

As a small gift, I gave my two “locker” aged children the following saying, with a picture of the Savior on it for them to hang in their lockers.

When we were baptized, we were taken out of the world and placed in the Kingdom of God on earth.  Therefore, as members of God’s Kingdom, we ought to dress and act and behave like children of a king! (John Bytheway)

The younger boys were given a CTR logo to mount and keep with their notebooks or pencil boxes where they could always see it!


Here we have a 7th grader, a 5th grader, a 3rd grader, and a first grader!


Here’s my little “freshman” 9th grader! I have so little time left with him! He’ll be leaving for his mission in less than 4 years!